What is wrong with women approaching Men?

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(っ◔◡◔)っ ♥ What is wrong with women approaching Men? ♥

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Though we are in 2022 majority of our communities still believe that it should be men approaching women. And women approaching men is fast or desperate. When the very first halal love interest story we learn about is the one where the woman initiated the proposal.

When we see the halal love interest of our Mother Khadija towards our beloved Prophet in comparison the advise we give to young girls, divorced women, widowed women these days is very negative, shamefull, assumptive and very limiting.

🌸 Top 9 Lessons Ummi Khadija taught about love:

► Go after the man you love, do not sit and wait for amazing opportunities *ahem men* to pass you by.

► To do so through a trusted person with utmost respect, decorum fit for a Muslimah, with class, hikmah, istekhara and positive hopes. In her case it was her trusted servant Maysara.

► Our Ummi Khadija taught us to be a go-getter, to be strong, to materialize thoughts and wishes into reality by taking ACTION, to follow your heart but to take your head along with it.

► She taught us there is no shame in women initiation proposals through the right means. She taught us that women can notice good pious men and think of marrying them or having them as the fathers of their progeny. She normalized the halal love and its approach that leads to marriage and nikah.

► She taught us not to sit and wait for men to approach.

► She taught us to pursue the men she like for the purpose of marriage, she basically broke every glass ceiling 1400 years back that women are still fighting and struggling with in 2022.

► My Mother Khadija taught us to be vulnerable, to take chance with destiny, to play no mind games big or small. To be direct in approach of finding love and a partner.

► The mother of Queen of Jannah taught us to have really high standards of who you chose as your husband and to not be shy of rejecting proposals. To not bat an eye sending an undeserving proposal out the door.

► She taught us compatibility comes before age, looks and marital status. That a divorcee/widow is compatible with a never been married before. That an older woman is compatible with a younger man. If she isn't the epitome of class, honour and good vision of life, I honestly don't know who is.