Qualities a Muslim HUSBAND Should Pocess

QUALITIES A MUSLIM HUSBAND SHOULD
POSSESS

A sister was asked about what qualities/
characteristics she would would be most important
for a Muslim husband to possess. The answers were
insightful and useful and I thought they were
worthy of sharing.
Question: “What would you consider in a brother
before accepting his marriage proposal? Please be as
clear and frank as possible so that the qualities
could be practically pursued.”
Answer:
1. Make her feel secure, don’t threaten her with
divorce.
2. Givesincere Salaams.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best
way and atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger, be in wudhu at all times.
8. Look good and smell great for your wife.
9. Don’t be rigid or hard-heart-ed.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute
nicknames, and names she loves to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her
family.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Praise her to her relatives.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.
22. Have a good opinion of each other.
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t
nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during
pregnancy, menses.
25. Expect and respect her jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.
28. Help at home, with housework.
29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to
force her.
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife in Du’a.
32. Leave the past for Allah, don’t dwell on, dig
into, or bring it up.
33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by
working or providing, Allah is the provider, the
husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the
family.
34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife’s mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious
pearl that you want to protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them
before they be come big.
39. Respect and show that you appreciate her
thinking.
40. Help her to find and build her inner strengths
and skills.
41. Respect that she might not be in mood for
intimacy, stay within Halaal boundaries.
42. Help her take care of the children.
43. Sit down and eat meals together.
44. Let her know that you will be traveling or
returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.
45. Don’t leave home in anger.
46. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
47. Encourage each other in worship.
48. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in
good and bad times.
49. Keep to the Sunnah of foreplay, don’t jump on
her like an animal.
50. Show care for her health and well-being.
51. Remember you are not always right or perfect
yourself.
52. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
53. Have mercy for her weaknesses.
54. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
The above list is a tall order, but as many upright
people have said, “Nothing is difficult when pursued
for Allah, and nothing is easy when pursued for the
ego.” We ask Allah, Most High, for success and
virtue.

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