Benefits from sex in Islam

SEXUAL RELATIONS BETWEEN
SPOUSES
AN ISLAMIC PERSPECTIVE
Islam is a perfect religion. It covers all aspects of
human life, including spouses’ sexual relations.
The husband and the wife choose their sexual
activities according to the teaching of Quran and
Ahadith and in mutual respect for one another. In
this context, following points are important.
1. Sexual relations are for the pleasure of both the
husband and the wife and for the procreation of
children.
2. Nothing should be done that is offensive or
harmful or unacceptable to your spouse. Each has a
duty to be sexually available to the other, but
neither has the right to disgust or injure the other,
physically or psychologically.
3 . Sexual pleasure is not limited to vaginal
penetration, as it includes other forms of caressing,
love making, such as kissing and fondling of various
kinds.
4. With a few exceptions, the couple can engage in
any activities that they like, in any manner and in
any position. Allah (swt) rewards permissible
activities as surely as he punishes sinful activities.
It is in Quran - "Women are your fields. Go then
into your fields as you please." ( Al-Baqara - 223).
5 . It is often reported by sexual counselors in
Muslim countries that some modern men and women
impose on their spouse on the night of marriage like
animals and expect that the spouse will carryout
certain prohibited things they have seen on
commercial sex websites. This kind of behavior often
ruins the life of both the partners.
6. It is forbidden in Islam to have vaginal
intercourse while a woman is menstruating (Al
Baqara - 222).
During menstruation, women often have mood
swings. The husbands should give due consideration
to this natural phenomenon. However, a man and his
menstruating wife can give one another pleasure so
long as the woman's genitals are avoided. On such
occasions, women should not remove their lower
garment (pajama).
It is in Hadith - Narrated Ummul Momineen A'isha
( ﺭﺿﺊ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ) : "The Prophet ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ
ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ) used to recite the Quran with his head in
my lap while I used to be in my periods (having
menses). (Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 93, Number 639)"
It is in Hadith - Ummul Momineen Maimuna ( ﺭﺿﺊ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ
ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ) reported: "The Messenger of Allah (ﺻﻠﻰ
ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ) contacted and embraced his wives
over the waist-wrapper when they were
menstruating. (Muslim,Book 003, # 0579).
It is in Hadith - Ummul Momineen A'isha ( ﺭﺿﺊ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ
ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ) reported: "When anyone amongst us (amongst
the wives of the Prophet - ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ )
menstruated, the Messenger of Allah ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ
ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ) asked her to tie a waist-wrapper over her
(body) and then embraced her. (Muslim, Book 003, #
0577).
7. Anal intercourse (sodomy) is forbidden in Islam –
Period. It is the worst kind of sexual practice,
not done by even wild animals.
It is in Hadith - "Allah ( ﺳﺒﺤﺎﻧﮧ ﻭ ﺗﻌﺎ ﻟﯽ ) does not look
at one who comes to his wife in her anus". (Nasa'i:
Hasan Isnaad; Tirmidhi and Ibn Hibbaan).
It is in Hadith - "Cursed are those who come to their
wives in their anuses." (Abu Dawood, Ahmad and others
with hasan isnaad).
8. The Quran and the Sunnah are generally silent as
to the various positions during fondling/love
making. Most Ulema consider that it is up to the
husband and wife, in love and mutual respect, to
decide how to physically and emotionally express
their sexual desires.
9. What goes on in bedroom, is a private matter
between spouses and should not be discussed or
revealed to other persons unless there is some
necessity, such as health or safety.
It is in Hadith - Abu Hurairah ( ﺭﺿﺊ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮧ )
narrates that the Prophet ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ )
said this about people who reveal and discuss openly
their sexual practices: "Do you know what those
who do this are like? Those who do this are like a
male and female devil who meet each other on the
road and satisfy their desire while the people look
on."
It is in Hadith - The Prophet ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ )
said "The most evil of the people to Allah ( ﺳﺒﺤﺎﻧﮧ ﻭ
ﺗﻌﺎ ﻟﯽ ) on the Day of Resurrection will be the man
who consorts with his wife and then publicizes her
secret. (Muslim).
10. If the husband is absent from his wife because he
is traveling for a legitimate purpose or other
legitimate excuse, in this case the husband should
try not to be absent from his wife for too long. The
husband is obliged to treat his wife in a kind
manner, which includes sex. The majority of
scholars set the time limit beyond which it is not
permissible for the husband to forgo intercourse at
four months. However, Ulema agree that there is no
time limit; the husband should have intercourse with
his wife according to her emotional and physical
requirements.
It is in Hadith - Imam Bukhari reported from ‘Abd-
Allah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas, who said: “The Messenger
of Allah ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ) said: ‘O ‘Abd-Allah,
have I not heard that you fast all day and stand all night in
prayer?’ I said, ‘Yes, O Messenger of Allah ( ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ
ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭ ﺁﻟﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ) .’ He said: ‘Do not do that. Fast and
break your fast, stand in prayer and sleep. For your body
has rights over you, your eyes have rights over you, and
your wife has rights over you.’ (Bukhari)
In the commentary on this Hadith, it says: “The
husband should not exhaust himself in worship to the
extent that he becomes too weak to fulfill her rights
by having intercourse with her and by earning a
living.” ( Fath al-Bari ).
11. Touching and caressing the genetelia of partners
by hands is allowed. In this case, hands and private
parts should be pre-cleaned thoroughly to avoid
infections.
12. On the question oral sex (genital contact by
mouth), some Ulema consider it forbidden as sexual
fluids are najis, while some Ulema consider it
‘tolerated’.
In this context, following facts are important.
(a) Partners who regularly perform oral sex on each
other, have found to suffer from Oral (mouth)
Cancer.
(b) It is confirmed that diseases like Chlamydia,
Human Papillama-virus (HPV), Gonorrhea, Herpes,
Hepatitis (Multiple strains), and other Sexually
transmitted diseases (STDs) including HIV can be
cause of oral sex.
(c) In 2005, a research study at the College of
Malmo in Sweden suggested that performing
unprotected oral sex on a person infected with HPV
increases the risk of Oral Cancer. The study found
that 36 percent of the Cancer Patients had HPV
compared to only 1 percent of the healthy control
group
(d) Another recent study suggests a correlation
between oral sex and Head and Neck Cancer. It is
believed that this is due to the transmission of
human papillama-virus (HPV) a virus that has been
implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and
which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in
numerous studies.
(e) If the (Oral Sex) receiving partner has wounds or
open sores on his/her genitals, or if the (Oral Sex)
giving partner has wounds or open sores in his/her
mouth, or bleeding gums, this poses an increased
risk of STD transmission.
(f) Brushing the teeth, flossing, undergoing dental
work, or eating crunchy foods such as chips/
Burgers/French Fries /coke relatively soon before
or after giving oral sex can also increase the risk of
transmission, because all of these activities can
cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth.
These wounds, even when they are microscopic,
increase the chances of contracting STDs that can
be transmitted orally under these conditions. Such
contact can also lead to more mundane infections
from common bacteria and viruses found in, around,
and secreted from the genital
regions.
In view of the above facts and the great health
hazard to human life, the Ulema may agree that oral
sex of all kinds is forbidden in Islam.