Sex before Marriage

Sex before marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa
Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and
Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this
question:
As Salaam Aleikum Brother
Two years back I started going out with a
guy who was not from the same country as
me but he is also a Muslim, I asked my
parents if we could get married and they
refused and so did his parents.
We made a very big mistake with having a
sexual relationship, we ask Allah for
forgiveness everyday, we made a very stupid
mistake and we both regret it. However we
want to get married. But I heard from
somewhere that if a couple have intercourse
before marriage they are not allowed to get
married in Islam.
We wanted to know what could we do to show
Allah how sorry we both are? Also can we not
get married because of the sin we have done?
what can we do in a situation which both are
parents are not agreeing?
Please brother help us with our problem. We
both want to be forgiven for the mistake we
made.
Allah hafiz
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Answer:
Sex before marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah
guides none can misguide, and whoever He
allows to fall astray, none can guide them
aright. We bear witness that there is no one
(no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no
imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but
Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the
seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: We both want to be forgiven for the
mistake we made.
My beloved sister in Islam, if one is ashamed
of ones past deeds, and genuinely turns to The
Merciful Lord and seeks sincere repentance for
the deeds one did in the past, and makes a
solemn covenant with his Lord that he will not
commit the evil again, and believes and does
righteous deeds thereafter; he will find his
Lord Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Whatever sins you might have done in your
past, if you sincerely turn to the Merciful
Lord in sincere repentance and Taubah before
your appointment of death, and amend your
conduct hereafter; it is expected that you will
find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful. Never
ever despair of Allahs Mercy; for Allah
Subhanah is extremely loving and Merciful
towards His believing slaves.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: O My
servants who have wronged their own souls.Do
not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah
forgives all sins. He indeed is the All
Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord
and submit to Him before the scourge
overtakes you; for then you may get no help
from anywhere.
The conditions or way to seek sincere Taubah
or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
One is aware that he has sinned, and feels
sorry and ashamed at his sin.
Makes a solemn covenant and promise with
Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he
has met with his appointment of death.
Is a believer and does righteous good deeds
thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah
Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they commit a
base deed or wrong their own soul by the
commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly,
and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive
sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not
knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These
will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,
and with Gardens beneath which canals flow,
and they will reside therein forever! How
excellent is the reward of those who do good
deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71: The (true) servants of
the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the
earth. When the ignorant people behave
insolently towards them, they say, Peace to
you; (And those) who pass their nights in
prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from
the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing!
It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place.
(And those) who, when they spend are neither
extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden
mean between the two extremes. (And those)
who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone,
nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has
forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does
this shall be punished for his sin, and his
torment shall be doubled on the Day of
Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of
ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE
REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE
BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful.
In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54: When those come to you who
believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you!
Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in
ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended
(his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most
Merciful."
Your Question: But I heard from somewhere that if
a couple have intercourse before marriage they are
not allowed to get married in Islam.
If a couple commit the sin of fornication or
have sexual intercourse before marriage, and
subsequently seek repentance for their sins
from the Merciful Lord, there is absolutely
nothing in Islamic Law that would prohibit
their marriage to each other.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and
whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows
Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan

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